About this tool
Tell the tool how often they cross your mind and how the missing feels: tender, aching, warm, bittersweet or heavy. You receive a short, kind reflection and one small idea for what to do next. There is nothing to calculate. It is simply a way to acknowledge the feeling.
Tips for getting the most from it
- Name the feeling honestly when choosing your answer.
- Pair it with the Unsent Letter if you want to say more.
- Try the small suggestion, even if it feels tiny.
Frequently asked questions
Is it normal to miss someone who hurt me?
Yes. You can miss the good parts, the routine and the person you were with them, even when the relationship was not good for you.
How do I stop missing someone?
You usually do not stop all at once. The feeling softens with time, new routines and support. Being patient with yourself helps.
This tool is for reflection and self-awareness, not diagnosis or treatment. If you are struggling, please speak with a doctor or counsellor. If you are in crisis, contact your local emergency number or a crisis line (US: call or text 988; elsewhere: findahelpline.com).
Keep reading
Our guide How to Tell If It Is Time to Move On goes deeper: Questions to ask yourself when you are unsure whether to stay or leave, the difference between a hard patch and a dead end, and how to decide without regret.