About this tool
Where the recovery calculator looks at daily wellbeing, this quiz focuses on the emotional tasks of a breakup: accepting that it is over, letting go of hope, forgiving yourself and imagining a future. Your answers show which of these you may be ready to work on next.
Tips for getting the most from it
- Notice questions where you answered “not at all” without judging yourself.
- Pair the quiz with journaling about your lowest-scoring area.
- Talk with a friend about one insight from your result.
Frequently asked questions
What if I am still hoping they will come back?
That is very common early on. Hope usually fades gradually. Give yourself time and avoid decisions made in the middle of a strong wave of feeling.
Is it normal to feel better and then worse again?
Yes. Grief comes in waves. A hard day after a good week does not mean you have lost progress.
This tool is for reflection and self-awareness, not diagnosis or treatment. If you are struggling, please speak with a doctor or counsellor. If you are in crisis, contact your local emergency number or a crisis line (US: call or text 988; elsewhere: findahelpline.com).
Keep reading
Our guide The No Contact Rule: What It Is and When It Helps goes deeper: An honest look at the no contact rule after a breakup: what it is, why people use it and when it may not be right for you.