About this tool
Ten statements about listening, naming feelings, asking for what you need and repairing after conflict give you a picture of your communication habits. The result offers one practical next step rather than a label, because skills grow with practice.
Tips for getting the most from it
- Think about your behaviour during a disagreement, not during calm moments.
- Pick one habit from the result and practise it for two weeks.
- Ask a trusted person whether your answers match how they experience you.
Frequently asked questions
Is there a right communication style?
No single style is right, but skills like listening, naming feelings without blame and repairing after conflict help almost every relationship.
Can I improve my score?
Yes. Communication is a set of learnable habits. Small consistent changes, such as pausing before replying, often make the biggest difference.
This tool is provided for entertainment and personal reflection only and is not professional advice. See our disclaimer.
Keep reading
Our guide How to Argue Without Damaging Your Relationship goes deeper: Practical, research-informed habits for handling conflict: soft starts, taking breaks, listening well and repairing afterwards.